Author Archives: Eitan Vilker

Insulting Gestures: American Children — Gesture 10

The Thumbs Down Gesture (Eitan Vilker)

Title: The Thumbs Down Gesture

General Information about Item:

  • Customary Lore: Hand gesture
  • Country of Origin: United States
  • Informant: Daniel (last name withheld)
  • Date Collected: 10-21-18

Informant Data:

  • Daniel was born in Providence, Rhode Island in 2004. His father is an attorney for the state of Rhode Island, and his mother is a psychologist who operates a private practice. Daniel and his family are Jewish. He has lived in the small town of East Greenwich for most of his life. Daniel attends Cole Middle School. His family hails from both Western and Eastern Europe.

Contextual Data:

  • Cultural Context: Children often use gestures that can be perceived in a neutral or negative light depending upon the situation. Gestures that are universally offensive are more likely to be considered taboo, like the middle finger, so gestures that are insulting sometimes but not always are a favorite of children.
  • Social Context: This hand gesture was brought up as a result of the interviewer asking what insulting gestures Daniel knew. He learned it from his parents and siblings. Most insulting gestures children make are used in school settings, physical activities and games, casual conversations, and at home- in short, the situations in which children spend the majority of their time.

Item:

  • Making this gesture merely involves holding the fingers of one hand into one’s fist and extending one’s thumb. This gesture indicates disapproval with a course of action, an opinion, or another person in general. It can be used as a shorthand for just saying “no” or it can be used in a dismissive fashion.

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Transcript:

  • “I put my thumb down to sort of say ‘no’ or ‘you’re wrong.'”

Collector’s Comments:

  • This is one of the most open-ended gestures observed. It can be very negative or neutral, and it can have many different meanings and apply to a large range of situations.

Collector’s Name: Eitan Vilker

Tags/Keywords:

  • Insulting Gesture
  • Thumbs Down

 

Insulting Gestures: American Children — Gesture 9

The Lifting Both Hands Up Gesture (Eitan Vilker)

Title: The Lifting Both Hands Up Gesture

General Information about Item:

  • Customary Lore: Hand gesture
  • Country of Origin: United States
  • Informant: Ari (last name withheld)
  • Date Collected: 10-21-18

Informant Data:

  • Ari was born in New Jersey in 2001. His father is an lawyer, and his mother is a doctor. who operates a private practice. Ari and his family are Jewish. He has lived in Rhode Island for most of his life. Ari attends East Greenwich High School. He has family from Israel and from Germany.

Contextual Data:

  • Cultural Context: Children like to use gestures that can apply to multiple different scenarios and that they can have plausible deniability for if they are accused of being rude. Thus, gestures that can be polite in certain contexts but unkind in others are a favorite of many children.
  • Social Context: This hand gesture was brought up as a result of the interviewer asking what insulting gestures Ari knew. He’s not certain where he learned it from, but he suspects it originates from within his family. Most insulting gestures children make are used in school settings, physical activities and games, casual conversations, and at home- in short, the situations in which children spend the majority of their time.

Item:

  • When using this gestures, one should hold the fingers of each hand together and bob them up and down a few times. This gesture is actually used in a polite or neutral manner more often than it is used in a rude way, but it can be used to indicate that small talk with another person would be a waste of time and it would be best to end the social encounter as soon as possible.

Associated File:

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Transcript:

  • “Interviewer: When would you do that? Ari: Like, to greet someone.”

Collector’s Comments:

  • This gesture has a very specific meaning but it can be used in a few different ways, which makes it very useful if one’s goal is to do something that looks innocuous while conveying an entirely different meeting.

Collector’s Name: Eitan Vilker

Tags/Keywords:

  • Insulting Gestures
  • Lifting Both Hands Up
  • Greeting

 

Insulting Gestures: American Children — Gesture 8

The Basic Middle Finger Gesture (Eitan Vilker)

Title: The Basic Middle Finger Gesture

General Information about Item:

  • Customary Lore: Hand gesture
  • Country of Origin: United States
  • Informant: Daniel (last name withheld)
  • Date Collected: 10-21-18

Informant Data:

  • Daniel was born in Providence, Rhode Island in 2004. His father is an attorney for the state of Rhode Island, and his mother is a psychologist who operates a private practice. Daniel and his family are Jewish. He has lived in the small town of East Greenwich for most of his life. Daniel attends Cole Middle School. His family hails from both Western and Eastern Europe.

Contextual Data:

  • Cultural Context: Children sometimes want to communicate a message to someone in as rude and unpleasant a manner as possible, in order to show just how much disrespect they hold toward a person or something they believe.
  • Social Context: This hand gesture was brought up as a result of the interviewer asking what insulting gestures Daniel knew. He learned it from friends of his who go to school with him. Most insulting gestures children make are used in school settings, physical activities and games, casual conversations, and at home- in short, the situations in which children spend the majority of their time.

Item:

  • To use this gesture, one simply raises the middle finger of one or both hands while leaving all other fingers down, usually pointing straight up but sometimes right at a person. It is used to directly insult someone in as offensive a fashion as possible. Flipping the bird, as the gesture is also termed, can be used in a wide array of situations, though it always has the same meaning. Having a way to tell someone off as succinctly as possible is very useful to children.

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Transcript:

  • “If I want to tell someone I’m really mad or that they suck, I lift up just my middle finger.”

Collector’s Comments:

  • This gesture can be used in many different social contexts, but it has a very unsubtle meaning, which is an interesting contradiction.

Collector’s Name: Eitan Vilker

Tags/Keywords:

  • Insulting Gesture
  • Middle Finger
  • Flipping the Bird

 

Insulting Gestures: American Children — Gesture 7

The L for Loser Gesture (Eitan Vilker)

Title: The Be Quiet or Shut Up Gesture

General Information about Item:

  • Customary Lore: Hand gesture
  • Country of Origin: United States
  • Informant: Daniel (last name withheld)
  • Date Collected: 10-21-18

Informant Data:

  • Daniel was born in Providence, Rhode Island in 2004. His father is an attorney for the state of Rhode Island, and his mother is a psychologist who operates a private practice. Daniel and his family are Jewish. He has lived in the small town of East Greenwich for most of his life. Daniel attends Cole Middle School. His family hails from both Western and Eastern Europe.

Contextual Data:

  • Cultural Context: Children like to use gestures that send a very clear message about how they feel about each other. Clearly insulting teases, taunts, or jabs are all heavily favored by children as a result.
  • Social Context: This hand gesture was brought up as a result of the interviewer asking what insulting gestures Daniel knew. Most insulting gestures children make are used in school settings, physical activities and games, casual conversations, and at home- in short, the situations in which children spend the majority of their time.

Item:

  • To use this gesture, one raises one’s thumb and index finger so that they are perpendicular to one another and lower’s the other three fingers. It is used to insult or taunt someone that has been defeated or one hoped to defeat. It can be mean-spirited, but it can also be used in a jesting manner.

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Transcript:

  • “When I want to call someone a loser, I make an L with two of my fingers. I don’t usually say it to be mean but when I’ve beaten someone at something.”

Collector’s Comments:

  • This gesture is fairly specific and unsubtle in its use. It’s almost always rude or at least teasing. Furthermore, it is applicable in only a narrow range of situations- usually when a person has won some form of event or is taunting someone else in a competition or game.

Collector’s Name: Eitan Vilker

Tags/Keywords:

  • Insulting Gesture
  • L for Loser 

 

Insulting Gestures: American Children — Gesture 6

The Be Quiet or Shut Up Gesture (Eitan Vilker)

Title: The Be Quiet or Shut Up Gesture

General Information about Item:

  • Customary Lore: Hand gesture
  • Country of Origin: United States
  • Informant: Rahil (last name withheld)
  • Date Collected: 10-21-18

Informant Data:

  • Rahil has lived in East Greenwich, Rhode Island for the last six years. His mother is a physicist, and he and his family are Pakistani, though Rahil has lived in America his whole life. Rahil attends Cole Middle School. He is a gifted student in a family that heavily encourages a focus on education.

Contextual Data:

  • Cultural Context: Children, much like adults, often enjoy the sound of their own voices more than those of others. Consequently, they often employ gestures that send a strong signal that they want to take over the conversation.
  • Social Context: This hand gesture was brought up as a result of the interviewer asking what insulting gestures Rahil knew. Most insulting gestures children make are used in school settings, physical activities and games, casual conversations, and at home- in short, the situations in which children spend the majority of their time.

Item:

  • This gesture is made by raising one’s index finger to one’s mouth. It does not have to be an insult, but it can be used to tell people what they’re saying is not interesting or is stupid. It is more often used in an academic setting​ or in friendly conversation. If the gesture is made during the middle of a conversation, it is very rude, but if it’s done when someone needs to know that it’s not an appropriate time to speak, the gesture can actually be polite. Children are much more likely to use the gesture at impolite times, however.

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Transcript:

  • “I use this gesture to tell people to shut up or stop talking. I use it at school and talking with friends. I just put my finger to my mouth.”

Collector’s Comments:

  • This gesture is particularly interesting because it can be used in so many different ways by different people. The fact that it can be both polite and horribly rude is an impressive amount of flexibility for a simple motion that only uses one finger.

Collector’s Name: Eitan Vilker

Tags/Keywords:

  • Customary Lore
  • Insulting Gesture
  • Shut Up
  • Be Quiet