One of the beautiful things in life is moving on, moving on from all those insecurities and baggage that used to hold you down, those same heavy loads that used to suffocate your voice, to hide your genuine self in the dark corner of the room, the same ones that force you to keep up with all those unfair treatments that this and that person used to give you.
It’s really amazing, gladdening, and liberating when you wake up and realize that you’re no longer the people-pleasing self that you used to be, that your self-deprecating persona has become history because, for the first time in your life, you now know your true worth. You know that the same way you treat others with respect, that you deserve that too. You know that just the same way you go out of your way to being there for that person that he or she should do the same for you too if you’re that special to them as they are to you. You know that though you messed up big time and betrayed that person who meant a lot to you, that doesn’t mean that that’s all you are, a betrayer. Because you are not. You’ve changed and you have become a better person than you were then. Because though it doesn’t excuse you for what you did to that person, you’ve apologized and asked for their forgiveness both in words and in actions.
The beauty in moving on is that you also get to realize that you are enough; that you don’t need anyone’s approval for you to be happy. You realize that you don’t have to fit in this or that group of people; that you don’t have to force any person to be in your life or for you to be in theirs. If they don’t want you in their life, that is it, leave them in peace. You realize that you do deserve more than being the side thought of someone who is a priority to you. You realize that there is a person who better deserves to occupy that part of your heart that you gave to that person who does not give a care whether or not you came to class, or whether or not you are feeling content and joyful or low and depressed. And you also realize that just because they didn’t return your genuine feelings doesn’t mean that you did waste your time or that they are horrible people.
Because when you move on you get to be more understanding of others. You get to realize that just because you love a person doesn’t mean that they will love you back. Or that just because you want to be more than casual friends with a person that that’s what they want too. You realize that because you want to have a person in life doesn’t mean they want you in theirs nor do they have to.
Moving on teaches you to be more open-minded and more empathetic. It teaches you to be more understanding of others the same way you want others to understand you. It teaches you that we are all human beings and that, along the way, we all mess up and hurt others both intentionally and unintentionally, in one way or another. Moving on does teach you that as long as one is alive, a person can change. You understand that deeply because you are a living testimony of that fact yourself. You know that the same way you are now a completely different and better person than you were a year or two ago, that another person can change too and be a better human being.